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the good, the glad & the lovely : embracing life

During both of my pregnancies, my creative well went dry. I felt as if all my creative energy was being used to make these tiny humans and there was none left over for the work I wanted to do. They were the longest nine months. Once I gave birth, of course, the inspiration and energy came surging back. The problem? I had so many! great! ideas!, but with new babies in tow I didn't have the time to act on them.

It was a frustrating and, honestly, a depressing, period for me. I was so used to getting things done right when I wanted to, but now I had to wait for this moment I wasn't even sure would come. In the meantime, I felt like life was passing me by.

But then I read this quote by Gabrielle Blair.

Gabby, who is an inspiring mom of six, wrote about balancing work and life balance on her blog, Design Mom: "Your baby may not always be so snuggly. Your curious preschooler may not always assume you know the answers to every question. Embrace your current life. And when it’s hard to embrace, know the next season is coming faster than you think."

When I read those words, something settled in me. Gabby was totally right. This time in my life was so precious, and it would never come again. My ideas, on the other hand, weren't going anywhere. If anything, they would become richer because of my experiences as a mom.

So here I am, with a 2 1/2 year old and a 7 month old, and it is nuts. But it gets easier. And then it gets harder, and then it gets easier, again. In midst of it all I am slowly finding my way back to myself, I am finding energy, and I am finding time. But on the days and weeks when I can't, I just throw my hands in the air and embrace life.

This week's Good, Glad & Lovely list:

- Saying "yes" to adventure.
- Watching the Oscars. It's my Super Bowl.
- Ideas that are so good you can't stop thinking about them.
- Nervously sharing one of those ideas with a few friends and discovering that they feel exactly the same way.
- My husband who brings me home a pint of my favorite gelato just because (and adding a spoonful to my cup of coffee in the morning just because).
- A perfect soft-boiled egg.
- Introducing my children to the not-quite-related aunties, uncles, and cousins with whom I grew up.
- Weather for cuddling.
- "Lovely Day" by Elizabeth Mitchell, a sweet little song.
- The simple but beautiful work of my new friend, Joke.

What are your good things today?

The Good, The Glad & The Lovely is an experiment in gratitude. I've been keeping lists of good things in one form or another since I was a girl. I hope you'll join me as I count the positive, accept the not-so-great, and try to do a bit of good, too.

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Reader Comments (8)

i love this. i've felt the same way throughout this pregnancy... sucked dry of all creativity. it has been really hard. good to know it comes back, and thank you for the reminder to just embrace my current season of life. can't wait to snuggle my own baby here soon and put other projects aside as needed :)

March 2, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterangela hardison

Such a wonderful post. I went through the same feelings and I'm still trying to figure out the right balance between freelancing/creative endeavors and raising my children. You and I had our baby girls not too far apart, and I've been wondering how you've been juggling it all -- because it is indeed crazy. Thanks for sharing that quote. Such a meaningful, simple reminder for when I begin to lose perspective.

March 2, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterJenn

wow.. didn't realize theres somebody feeling the exact same way as i was. thank you for putting words into my current frustrations.. being creative and being a mom = creative mom! hahaha.. ahhh gratitude yes. thank you for the reminder. :)

March 2, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterKat

I was so touched by this post! Glad my quote could help you in some small way. I've definitely had the experience you are describing and can tell by your post that you are handling your current season with grace. Well done!

March 3, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterGabrielle - Design Mom

hi friend.
so true so true.
it's all thrilling and frustrating and amazing and fun and crazy at the same time [and i don't know how you do TWO]

can't wait to see you sometime soon...

March 4, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterlisa s

I needed this. Thank you!

March 6, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterpenelope

I am so glad that I stumbled upon this post (came across it on Shutterbean's I love lists Friday!) I am a new mom. My gorgeous daughter is 6.5 months old. This is EXACTLY what I have been going through for the past couple months. I've had all these ideas coming to me and I feel like I need to act on them. Finding the balance to do so hasn't been the easiest task ever and then I feel so down on myself for not accomplishing. It is very easy to forget what a precious time this is in our life and these times aren't here forever - but those ideas aren't going anywhere. The timing of this couldn't have been better. THANK YOU! You now have a new follwer! (Doesn't sound too stalker-ish I hope) :)

March 14, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterTara

I so loved this post! Even though I haven't felt the same way others felt. I so admired them that they are capable of this stuffs. I loved my mom very much.

March 31, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterWheel Balancing Weights

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